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A Misunderstanding of Jesus’ command to “Judge Not” Is Causing Unequally Yoked Marriages By the Millions

It is often thought that the most memorized verse from the bible is John 3:16.  I suspect that is true for those who truly love Jesus and are in Christ.  But I strongly believe that far more people have memorized Matthew 7:1 and they have done so without any effort whatsoever.  Perhaps most of them only have two words memorized: “Judge not”.  These two words are very likely among Satan’s favorite passages of the bible.  And not only Satan but all who hate Christ and his church favor these two words.  Then, of course, we think of those of whom the great Apostle Paul warns believers not to associate.  These regularly and happily abuse the Lord’s phrase against judging others:

“But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler—not even to eat with such a one.  For what have I to do with judging outsiders?  Do you not judge those who are within the church?  But those who are outside, God judges.  Remove the wicked man from among yourselves” (1 Corinthians 5:11-13[underlining mine]).

Few biblical passages are as universally believed and repeated as Jesus’ words in the Sermon on the Mount “judge not least you be judged”.  “Judge not” is thrown back in Christians’ faces and has been a mantra for liberals alongside: Diversity, social justice, political correctness and globalism.  With such associations one should quickly realize that “Judge not” does not in any way, shape or form carry the same meaning that Jesus intended.  So then, what does “Judge not” mean for the millions of Americans quick to use it?

It has two primary meanings each of which carry major implications:

First, “judge not” as understood today means that it is taboo to make a judgment about the rightness or wrongness of somebody else’s thoughts, words or actions.  People universally recognize that “nobody is perfect”; however, the adoption of this aphorism lures people into moral carelessness.  The reality is that we should have a problem with our lack of perfect holiness.  The perfect holiness of God demands that we be holy too, which is why the perfect righteousness of Christ is necessary to make atonement for our imperfection.  The modern moral compass is off by one hundred and eighty degrees because sin is no longer considered a problem, and liberal Christians go so far as to deny the existence of sin altogether.

If the modern understanding of “judge not” were accurate, then the bible would not command us to reprove, rebuke and correct one another.  In the fight against sin the Christian needs all possible assistance including other Christians coming alongside to rebuke and correct in the spirit of love.  The modern liberal understanding says that the only loving response to sin is to accept, confirm and even celebrate the person’s decision to defy the ways of God.  Support for the person’s corrupt choices and lifestyles is demanded.  Those who refuse to celebrate sinful choices are called bigots, homophobes, racists, misogynists and xenophobes.  Where is the love in confirming and celebrating a person for making sinful choices that lead to them taking a path that will end in divine judgment and eternal misery?  But know this dear believers, that any unpleasantness after a gentle reproof has been offered is not caused by a concerned brother’s loving confrontation but rather by the angry, rebellious response of the person in need of rebuke and correction.  An unwillingness to repent from sin, believe in Jesus and obey the commandments of God is the response of an unbeliever.

Jesus’ phrase “Judge not least you be judged” has a second, equally disastrous understanding today, which is that even many of the regenerate cannot discern whether or not a claim to Christian faith is valid or specious.  The overwhelmingly predominate mindset is that any claim to Christianity whatsoever is to be honored.  If somebody says they are a Christian, than by golly they must be a very fine Christian indeed notwithstanding a truckload of evidence to the contrary…after all who are we to judge?  This, of course, is completely inconsistent with Scriptural teaching.

People who are consumed by pride, unbelief, rebellion and gross immorality are still considered brothers in Christ with nothing more than an empty claim to Christianity.  Jesus showed us how to recognize the difference between genuine disciples and wolves in sheep’s clothing.  He said to the Pharisees “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”  Few today understand the obvious inference of the ‘log’ and the ‘speck’.  The former is the sin of unbelief.  The religious leaders in Jesus’ day refused to believe in the Son of God who came to take away the sins of the world, yet they still wanted men to view them as spiritual titans.  Jesus was telling these “hypocrites” to remove the log of unbelief and become believers in God’s redeeming Son and then they would be part of the family of God and could reprove and rebuke fellow partakers in the kingdom of God, but they continued in their unbelief.

Jesus went on to say in the Sermon on the Mount, “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.”  It is obvious that many modern Christians cannot see past the clothing.  Jesus then said, “You will know them by their fruits.  Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes or figs from thistles, are they?  So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit.”  Therein we discover the problem.  So many wolves have entered the church that Christians and so-called Christians alike are incapable of recognizing the difference between good and bad fruit.  Most in the church cannot discern the difference between an unrepentant sinner and a saint who is engaged in a battle to mortify the remnants of indwelling sin.

If the church is blind, then how dark is the modern darkness?  How will the members of the church of God know with whom they are to evangelize and with whom they are to fellowship?  How can any Christian hope to obey God’s command, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” if they cannot discern the distinction between a believer and an unbeliever?  Christians are marrying unbelievers at an alarming rate and most of them mistakenly believe their new marriage partner to be a Christian when they are clearly not.  If they were only practiced in the word of God, then they would be able to discern good from evil.

The predominate evangelical gospel in the United States is a false gospel.  Millions have made a willful decision to ask Jesus into their lives thinking themselves to be born-again.  These go on loving the world and the things of the world.  When we try to warn them that the Biblical gospel demands that they cry out to God for forgiveness due to the crushing weight of their sin, their cry is “judge not” as they ask us who we think we are to judge the genuine status of their Christian faith.  Repentance has no part in the modern false gospel.  Oh what a tragedy is this outcome of the misuse of Christ’s phrase.

Those who throw around the phrase “Judge not” are demonstrating a clear failure to recognize salvation.  Those who cannot recognize salvation reveal their ignorance of the biblical gospel.  This problem existed in the churches of the first century as well: Jude said of them, “These are the ones who cause divisions, merely natural (worldly minded), devoid of the Spirit.”  Salvation is not merely natural but supernatural.  Salvation cannot happen apart from the power of the Holy Spirit.  Salvation does not mean being part of a church or a denomination.  Salvation is not inherited from one’s parents or from the religion of one’s parents.  Salvation cannot be earned through works.  Salvation cannot be chosen by the will of man.  Salvation is entirely of God.  God does not save without transforming.

So then, what is Jesus’ meaning when he said “Do not judge one another”?  The Lord was saying that we must not hold one another in contempt.  We must never want someone else to be eternally separated from God.  We must not hate one another.  We must not judge another to be unworthy to hear the Biblical gospel of Jesus Christ.  The liberal says that God loves everybody unconditionally just the way they are, which means they do not need to repent or conform to a likeness of Christ.  God forbid!  On the other end of the spectrum, self-righteous religiosity holds the masses in contempt while uttering false blessings like ‘God bless you’.  Equally appalling!  There is a better way.

Paul told the Roman Christians “…not to judge one another anymore, but rather determine this—not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother’s way.”  So judging has to do with hindering someone from coming to the Lord.  Paul’s question to the Roman Christians was, “But you, why do you judge your brother?  Or you again, why do you regard your brother with contempt?  For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God.”  Paul did not want baby Christians (excessive restrictions with food, marriage, etc. things that are given us to freely enjoy) to have contempt for mature Christians who enjoyed the liberty that we find in Christ.  And he did not want the mature Christians to cause the baby Christians to stumble so as to go against their consciences and sin.  Stop judging one another, stop holding one another in contempt.  Paul’s exhortations do not negate the necessity for sound judgment, but rather require it so that we may know right from wrong.

What do Christians need to change in their thinking?  It is not contempt but knowledge of the Scriptures and wisdom that recognizes the lost condition of a false confessor.  Each person has a reliable tendency to favor themselves, so is it any wonder that millions of people think that they are living lives pleasing to God when they are not?  If a person has become born-again, then they need to become practiced in the word of God so that they will recognize the clear biblical signs of salvation.  This needs to be done early in the life of young believers, before they make a choice for a life-long marriage partner.  Failure here could mean a major life interruption by an unequally yoked marriage.  This is the proper order: know that you are in Christ, become practiced in the word of God, then seek a marriage partner who has fruit consistent with true faith.  The usual order?  Thinking you are in Christ when most casual Christians are not, fall in love with another casual Christian and get married, no time for God’s word, both fall away from their specious faith or only one falls away and the other discovers that they are unequally yoked in their marriage and misery ensues.

Go to the word of God and learn the truth about the gospel and salvation.  Know what salvation looks like—that is the thing.  Do not equivocate; do not think in generalities or vagaries.  When it comes to the gospel start with the Gospel of John and then read the New Testament book of Romans.  Every regenerate Christian must have clear and obvious fruit that is readily recognizable to those who know God’s word.  Every unregenerate person lacks this fruit.  There is no gray line here.  It is obvious to the mature Christian who is and who is not saved.  Young Christians can expect one additional obstacle in making a wise, lifelong decision to marry.  Once they begin to “fall in love” they will become virtually blind in terms of making a wise judgment as to the genuineness of their dating partner’s faith in Christ.  They must bring older, more mature believers into their circle to let them know if this person shows the signs of faith in Christ.  It is critical to become a mature Christian prior to marriage, so that the judgment necessary to pick a lifelong mate can be done well, avoiding forever the need for God’s provision of divorce.

The problem lies in the fact that a vastly larger body of people, known to the world as Christians, are in the camp of being ignorant to what the word of God says about salvation.  This majority insist, to their own detriment, that simply desiring salvation is all that is necessary to possess it.  That is all fine and good in the here and now where the biblically misinformed believe whatever makes them feel good, but it will not transport them into the kingdom of our Lord Jesus Christ in the next lifetime.  Of equal importance, when a true believer in Christ Jesus marries one of these false confessors of the faith they will learn sooner or later that they are bound together with an unbeliever, which is an awful condition and a sinful state.

“Do not be bound together with unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 6:14).


The Weaker Brother or Sister

The Weaker Brother or Sister in Romans 14:23.

The greatest gift God gave humans, short of spirits, is the human mind.  What you think determines much of your entire life including what you believe regarding the spiritual realm.  Believers are commanded to renew their minds by the word of God.  Perhaps the most difficult aspect of having minds set upon the word of God is the necessity to root out all false beliefs.  The traditions of men compete with the word of God for terrain in our minds.  Within the Christian ethos are manmade extrabiblical traditions harboring deeply rooted presuppositions that misinterpret God’s word.  Few things interfere more in the renewing of our minds than the presuppositions planted by manmade religious traditions. 

Our Lord Jesus considered this important enough to make it a major part of His Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:27-48).  Jesus gives five examples of religious traditions of men that were plaguing the people of God in Jesus lifetime, and then He provided the truths of God that were to replace the traditions of men, which must be unrooted and discarded.  Jesus introduced the five traditions of the religious Jews by saying, “You have heard that it was said” in verse 27, “It was said” in verse 31, “Again, you have heard that the ancients were told” in verse 33, “You have heard that it was said” in verse 38 and “You have heard that it was said” in verse 43 as Jesus’ final example.  The Jewish people in the 1st Century did not have copies of the Scriptures to read.  They gathered in synagogues every Sabbath listening to a brief reading of Scripture, which was immediately followed by an interpretation of the Jewish religious leaders.  Jesus grew up in these religious meetings hearing the traditions of men on a weekly basis.  This is why He said, “You have heard that it was said” instead of “You have read”. 

Christianity is not much different today.  Entire segments of the Christian church believe and follow traditions created by manmade interpretations of God’s word.  Paul taught the believers in Rome that “Faith comes by hearing and hearing from the word of God” (Romans 10:17).  So then, we have the pure milk of God’s word, and we have manmade interpretations of the Scriptures passed along through celebrity pastors, denominations and churches.  Christians who make themselves dependent upon denominational leaders, churches and popular pastors are almost guaranteed to be doomed to a corrupt mind resulting in a corrupt faith.  For the record, it is rare to find a good celebrity pastor. 

The gospel is the power of God unto salvation (Romans 1:16), and it is among the most heavily attacked doctrines in the Bible.  Add to this our strong temptations to attend to the things that we think most please us: income production, family enrichment, entertainment galore and we are doomed to this cycle of listening to the “popular” ministers of the word of God and being worldly minded.  Popular ministers are just that because they appeal to your worldly desires and so change the word of God just enough to make room for the love of the world, which separates us from the love of God (1 John 2:15-17). 

What you think becomes how you understand the spiritual life, which in turn determines what you believe—your faith.  The epistle of James explains a useless faith, which is what we are discussing.  The modern evangelical gospel is a false gospel that says you can receive Jesus as your savior by making a willful decision.  If these ‘formal Christians’ would begin to renew their minds through the reading of the Scriptures, they would quickly recognize that such a gospel is not found in the pages of Scripture.  This gospel, that is not a gospel, does not transform these people into the image of Christ.  They are no more in Christ Jesus than atheists.  Those who listen to the man-made doctrines have a hardened conscience to the truth because the conscience is formed by one’s thoughts and beliefs, which are fashioned by the man-made doctrines religious leaders adopt to make Christianity more appealing to larger numbers of people (essentially marketing…follow the money).  Most pastors are susceptible to seeking successful “careers” like everyone else, but for most of them, the success they seek is worldly and not what Jesus commands. 

Why this discussion here?  If you are in Christ Jesus, then to marry ‘Formal Christians’, who merely follow the Christian traditions of men, will make you unequally yoked in your marriage.  This is not the will of God for His children and will make you miserable at some point in your marriage.  The most common comment we see on this blog is that their spouse is a Christian who beats them, terrorizes them and their children or cheats on them or regularly deceives them.  They describe treacherous spouses, which are called narcissistic spouses (psychology) today. Yet these doctrinally illiterate believers think their unbelieving spouses are saved because these Christians, though regenerate themselves, still believe the false gospel invented by the traditions of men.  Yes, a person can be saved and still hold false doctrines.  Being in possession of true doctrine doesn’t save anybody.  But true doctrine is what we see in the Bible and in the gospel, which is the power of God unto salvation.  True doctrine is a necessary beginning to a life of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ…beginning with the gospel.  Jesus preached, “Repent and believe” as did John the Baptist.  This and this alone is the gospel of truth. Simple enough to save a child, yet pregnant with meaning, which is unexplored by those who shun pure biblical doctrine.

The Western cultures do not value growing in the knowledge of Biblical truth until a person reaches an older age, when they are forced to begin contemplating passing from this life to the next.  It is the natural order for the Western world to sow one’s wild oats when they are young, then marry (or not) and have a family (or not) and build a career, build a portfolio and travel when you retire.  Only after all that do most people begin earnestly thinking about their eternity.  Even then, they frequently turn to a proponent of the man-made doctrines to get assurances that all will be well after death.  But certainly all will not be well for the vast majority who were raised in so-called Christian homes. 

Since most marry relatively young, ignorant to Biblical doctrine, saved or not, they later find themselves in unequally yoked marriages by having become born-again after the wedding day while their spouse does not.  Others, saved prior to their marriage, yet were still under the teaching of the spiritual traditions of men.  The outcome in the Christian sphere is a pandemic of unequally yoked believers. 

The unbelieving spouse is not the weaker brother or sister. That title belongs to the believing spouse who has remained a mere babe in Christ. The unbelieving spouse in not related to Christians at all. 

The author to the Hebrews wrote:

“For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you have need again for someone to teach you the elementary principles of the oracles of God, and you have come to need milk and not solid food. For everyone who partakes only of milk is not accustomed to the word of righteousness for he is an infant. But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil” (Hebrews 5:12-14). 

In order to possess the discernment to recognize the children of God and the children of Satan study the Scriptures and read or listen to the men who have proven themselves to be great teachers of the word of God. Such discernment will prove to be just the tip of the iceberg in terms of being blessed by knowing all that God has revealed through His holy Scriptures. 

Great teachers readily available:

Martyn Lloyd-Jones at MLJTrust.org / Over 1,600 Sermons & great books as well. His Romans series will set you straight on doctrine. Also, R. C. Sproul with Ligonier Ministries / Sermons & Lectures & many books by Sproul. Vodie Baucham at vodiebaucham.org

Lloyd-Jones died in 1981 and is, in my opinion, simply a giant intellect under the control of the Holy Spirit. Sproul died in 2017 (hard to believe it’s been that long) and is a superb teacher of the word of God and biblical doctrines. He greatly appreciated Lloyd-Jones. Vodie Baucham is the new guy on the block but doing great so far to my knowledge.