Unity for the sake of unity is neither a biblical idea nor a rational ideal. Churches and marriages are two beautiful examples of unity. Church unity is seen in Paul’s final chapter to the church at Rome as Paul sends his greeting to twenty-six members of the church by name. Paul encouraged them to express their unity by greeting one another with a holy kiss (Vs. 16).
Nevertheless, in the very next verse Paul turns to a negative aspect of unity. “Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them” (Romans 16:17). In the midst of demonstrating the beauty of church unity in his greeting to all the saints in Rome he urges the churches to put out of their assemblies those who reject the teaching of the Lord and the apostles and thereby destroy unity in the truth.
The desire for unity springs up out of an environment of disunity. Sin not only introduced sickness and death into the world but it also introduced separation. There will be no cries or movements for unity in heaven. Unity is a virtue when people unite around that which is good or righteousness. For instance, all who are in Christ Jesus will be united in heaven, the allies came together against the axis of evil during the Second World War, regenerate believers come together to start biblically centered churches, and vast and disparate populations come together to rescue their neighbors who have been wiped out by natural disasters.
Unity can also be a vice or a sin when people unite for evil or unrighteous purposes often as a response to having grown weary of disagreements and arguing without end. Examples include ecumenical movements in religion, the axis of evil (Germany, Japan and Italy) during the Second World War, and the unity of the Democratic Party and major media outlets, higher education institutions, and Hollywood.
If unity is to be a virtue in a fallen world, it must exclude wicked people. Therefore universal unity for righteousness cannot be had as long as unrepentant sinners continue in their rebellion against God. So then, Paul’s advice to, “Keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them” is a necessary component of righteous unity.
Not surprisingly, churches for over two thousand years have followed Paul’s advice. They have both put people out of the church and they have split apart and become two churches when those who cause dissension and hindrances contrary to biblical teaching have become a faction within the church.
J.C. Ryle taught as much:
“Divisions and separations are most objectionable in religion. They weaken the cause of Christianity…But before we blame people for them, we must be careful that we lay the blame where it is deserved. False doctrine and heresy are even worse than schism. If people separate themselves from teaching which is positively false and unscriptural, they ought to be praised rather than reproved. In such cases separation is a virtue and not a sin…The old saying must never be forgotten, ‘He is the schismatic who causes the schism’…Controversy in religion is a hateful thing…But there is one thing which is even worse than controversy, and that is false doctrine, allowed, and permitted without protest or molestation.” (J.C. Ryle quote in Evangelicalism Diveded by Iain Murray).
A marital divorce between a believer and an unbeliever is to a family what a schism between faithful Christians and heretical Christians is to a church. In both instances the blame must be placed where it is deserved. Unequally yoked unions (marriage or otherwise) should be added to false doctrines and heresy as things that are worse than schism. As Ryle recommends praise and virtue for those who would separate themselves from heretical teaching I cannot see any reason not to recommend the same for those who would separate themselves from heretical, unbelieving spouses.
It should be easy to see that all Christian unity must be centered on Jesus Christ as he is revealed in Scripture. Secondly, the word of God is the very source of truth, and all teaching must be measured by the word of God and eminent reason. Along both of these lines the permanence of marriage view comes into conflict. This flawed view on marriage thinks marriage and not Jesus to be the source of Christian unity…regarding the unity formed by a marriage. An unequally yoked marriage cannot find its unifying source in the Lord Jesus because half of the partnership denies Christ’s authority and advocacy. Secondly, the permanence of marriage view fails to take into account the fall and subsequently all of God’s laws to govern the fallen. Though it be true that the mandate of the permanence of marriage did indeed precede man’s fall into sin, but after the fall took place the permanence view fails to account for vessels of God’s wrath, unequally yoked marriages, God’s command against unequally yoked marriage, and bad company/communications corrupting good morals.
In other words, vessels of wrath were not in the picture when God declared that marriage would be permanent. Now that they are in the picture does God still want vessels of mercy to be permanently bound to vessels of wrath? God’s word clearly teaches and mandates that God most definitely does not want believers bound to unbelievers in any relationship.
This has become a rather significant problem as the rest of man’s affairs are dealt with by God’s laws that were given to govern a fallen mankind, but many treat marriage differently and refuse to allow it to be governed by God’s law. Because of this, the institution of marriage has been, for all practical purposes, exalted above the laws of God. It is as though marriage alone continues as God had originally intended prior to the fall even though wicked people would now be in those marriages and marriage would clearly need to be subject to God’s moral laws.
So then, rather than achieving perfect harmony in marriages this view has created disharmony in perhaps millions of Christian marriages and churches. All of this disharmony is a direct result of the permanence view being held above the laws of God—it has been treated as unassailable even to God’s moral laws. If marriages were properly understood so as to be subject to God’s laws, then unequally yoked marriages would be dissolved as soon as the believer became convicted of the sinful union. And church leaders would be calling upon their members to repent of unequally yoked marriages rather than urging them to seek unity between light and dark, righteousness and lawlessness, Christ and ungodliness, and the temple of God and idols. It is heartbreaking to think that for centuries the permanence view of marriage has been coercing saints bound together with unbelievers to “help the wicked and love those who hate the Lord and so bring wrath on yourself from the Lord”.
Believers who realize that they are in unequally yoked marriages soon discover that keeping one’s vow is pitted against God’s command prohibiting unequally yoked relationships. And being loyal and obedient to one’s spouse is pitted against the command to come out from the midst of the world and be separate. And staying married to an unrepentant vessel of wrath prepared for God’s destruction is pitted against God’s command against helping the wicked and loving those who hate the Lord (2 Chronicles 19:2).
Hopefully the reader sees the elephant in the room (preceding paragraph)? This is one ginormous elephant! Follow closely: What (in context) preceded the fall of Adam and Eve into sin? Answer: Marriage. And what was God’s intention for marriage before the fall? Answer: Marriages were permanent pairings (two halves of the one whole). And finally: What (in context) did not exist before the fall? (Clue: look at the previous paragraph). Answer: Vessels of wrath, unequally yoked relationships and God’s moral command to separate from the wicked. That is correct! None of these things existed at the time when God intended marriage to be permanent. Needless to say, God’s original intention of permanence in marriage is still a reality in equally yoked marriages between two believers in Christ.
So then, should saints, with their heads buried in the sand, continue in God’s original intention for marriage acting like no wolves in sheep’s clothing are prowling about? Or must we follow God’s moral law that was given to govern this fallen world…the very Law that blazes vessels of God’s wrath in a light as bright as the sun, and strictly prohibits marriage to them?
It would seem that the permanence of marriage defenders want to carry on as though the fall never happened. If only, they must be thinking, we could follow God’s pre-fall plan. Then we would have no need for church divisions and marital divorces. That would be nice because divisions and divorces are so very ugly and messy. Oh, and we would not need repentance either, or faith, or Christ’s atoning sacrifice, hope, unity, truth, honor, forgiveness, the indwelling Spirit, hospitals, graves, tears, locks, keys, weapons…the list of things for which we would have no need is endless. Yes, well if “ifs” and “buts” were candy and nuts, then we all could have a great big party. But we have to live in a world that has fallen. A world that is governed by God’s moral law. A world in dire need of Christ’s atoning sacrifice. A world with necessary divisions and divorces to separate the vessels of mercy from the vessels of wrath.
The church through the centuries has permitted local bodies of Christ (churches) to divide years after the people involved have covenanted together to form a place of worship, and they have done so because of Paul’s command to “turn away from them.” In other words, whenever dissenters rise up within the church to take an unbiblical view/direction the church is allowed to put them out and covenant only with the obedient children of God. Marriages must not be treated differently for the members of a marriage require the very same protections so obviously needful for members of a church. Both churches and marriages should be safe havens for God’s saints…places that edify and build up…that support the Holy Spirit’s work of sanctification.
Dealing with vessels of God’s wrath is not pretty (nor is surgically removing a tumor), but it is necessary because of dissension within the body of Christ. A little leaven leavens the whole lump. This has not merely been an allowance from the Lord but it is a mandate. Yet many in the church have blindly and mistakenly worked very hard to restrict believers caught up in unequally yoked marriages from faithfully obeying God’s laws designed to protect believers from the contagion of unrepentant sinners.
Why have they done this? They have acted in this way because in their mind marriage has been exalted above the commandments of God. Luther, Calvin and the Puritans declared that marriage was a civil matter, but far too many believers continue to follow the Roman Catholic bastardization of marriage by treating it like a sacrament. Holy matrimony is a man-made monstrosity (no offense intended to those who like me are blessed with an equally yoked marriage). God is holy. God’s word is holy. But everything else in this world must be subject to the laws of God because of the sinfulness of man.
God instituted one man and one woman for life, but he did so when the fall had not yet taken place. From the time of the fall until the present day the institution of marriage has been subject to all of the laws of God that govern the affairs of fallen men. God’s law not only forbids unequally yoked marriages, but also homosexual, polygamous, and incestuous and marriages. The church should have treated unequally yoked marriages the very same way it treats the other three forbidden marital unions. Having failed to do so, the church now finds itself upon a precipice; it will soon fall one way or the other. In allowing one of the four forbidden marital unions the church has no one to blame but itself as it begins its decent down this slippery slope.
For some time now millions of so called Christians have been embracing homosexual lifestyles and marriages. Why? Homosexuality and soon polygamy are going to be considered mainstream in the churches because of the untold numbers of believers who are unequally yoked in their marriages. Their wicked spouses demand that they “love” (by love they mean to advocate for and to celebrate) the homosexuals who for no fault of their own prefer homosexual relations. The Supreme Court of the United States of America has acted like a legislative body and written a law legalizing homosexual marriages just as they legalized the murder of unborn babies in 1973.
Wake up O sleeping church before it is too late. Is it not obvious that our children are being lost to a modern Sodom and Gomorrah? Now is not the time to look back as did Lot’s wife to her eternal ruin (She was looking back to the world that she loved). Repentance begins with obeying the commandments of God and separating light from darkness. Repent of your unequally yoked marriages. Separate yourselves from your defiled churches. Repent of your failure to protest the false doctrines that have crept into the church. Repent of your love for this world and its ways.
Paul, speaking the very words of God told the Corinthians to, “Come out from their midst and be separate says the Lord. And do not touch what is unclean; and I will welcome you. And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me, says the Lord Almighty” (2 Corinthians 6:17-18).
The corporate sin of the church on this issue is massive. It is such a complicated issue that churchmen have thrown up their hands and surrendered. They have sat down when they should have stood up. They have left the people of God to figure out for themselves what the churchmen could not comprehend for themselves. And to add insult to injury, the one law regarding this matter that they enforce is a manmade law that entraps God’s children in divinely prohibited marriages for the entirety of their earthly lives. It has been a travesty of major proportions. It is time for churchmen to learn the biblical truth and stand up once again.
This failure is due largely because of the insistence to follow God’s original intent for marriage when marriage is and must be subject to all of God’s moral laws that govern sinful people.