The Will of God Dictates Divorce for Those Unequally Yoked In Marriage

In writing on the topic of the will of God R. C. Sproul made two points that this writer finds of great interest for the born-again who are bound by marriage to someone who has not experienced the new birth in Christ Jesus.

R. C. Sproul’s First Point Regarding the Will of God

First, Sproul said that God has three distinct wills: God’s sovereign decretive will—all that God has decreed since before the foundation of the world. God’s preceptive will—all that God has commanded His children do and what to not do. Finally, God’s will of disposition—that which pleases God.

Insight into these three distinct wills is seen in 1 Timothy 2:4 where Paul explained to Timothy that it is God’s desire for “all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.” It is God’s will of disposition that desires all men to be saved—God takes no pleasure in sending men to their eternal torment. Yet God’s sovereign decretive will has determined that the road to destruction will be much broader than the road to salvation, and we know not why as God has not chosen to tell us the reason.  Men harden their hearts against the mercy and grace offered to them.  The unregenerate are pleased to practice lawlessness rather than to submit to God’s preceptive will, which commands all men to obey the gospel of Jesus Christ.

R.C. Sproul’s Second Point Regarding the Will of God

Dr. Sproul’s first point on the three distinct wills of God is foundational for proper knowledge and understanding of the second: “God’s sovereign ‘permission’ of human sin is not His moral approval.” Apply this to the discussion of unequally yoked marriages. God has commanded through His preceptive will against all unequally yoked relationships including and especially marriages. Scripture makes it abundantly clear that God is very displeased when His children yoke themselves to unbelievers. The life and death of Jehoshaphat is an excellent example of God’s heart and mind on the faithful joining themselves to or with the godless. A prophet of God asked Jehoshaphat (an eminently godly king of Judah who married off his son to the godless daughter of Ahab and Jezebel), “Should you help the wicked and love those who hate the Lord and so bring wrath on yourself from the Lord” (2 Chron. 19:2)? This was a rhetorical question—the answer is an emphatic “BY NO MEANS, MAY IT NEVER BE!”

Therefore every regenerate man or woman of God who is married to an unbeliever can be assured that they are outside of God’s preceptive will for He has prohibited unequally yoked marriages scores of times in His word. They are also outside of God’s will of disposition—God is not pleased as bad company always corrupts good morals. It is true that they are in God’s sovereign decretive will (as is every single living being), which is to say that God has allowed them to sin in this godless marriage, but as R. C. Sproul said, “God’s sovereign ‘permission’ of human sin is not His moral approval”.

Most today fail to recognize unequally yoked marriages as godless marriages because the church, in a monumental failure to understand God’s heart and mind on this subject, concocted a man-made doctrine for marriage that defies reason.  The pernicious nature of this doctrine is concealed by its Roman Catholic name “holy matrimony”.  The church concedes the biblical teaching that unequally yoked marriages are outside of God’s preceptive and dispositional will.  Yet inexplicably the church has granted “holy matrimony” the power to sanctify unequally yoked marriages.  Does the reader understand what “holy matrimony” has done to God’s prohibition, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers”?  The man-made doctrine of “holy matrimony” essentially states that divinely forbidden marriages are mystically transubstantiated into marriages that suddenly earn God’s moral approval.  This is like the serpent telling Eve “You certainly shall not die”.  It is entirely illogical, utter nonsense.  Why the church failed to follow the godly examples of Ezra and Nehemiah who entered into covenants with God to have all the people divorce their godless spouses will forever be a sad chapter for Christ’s church. The church desperately needs to discover its error and correct their doctrine on divorce for the unequally yoked.

It is awful when God’s children fall into sin, but it is infinitely worse for them to continue practicing the sin. Disobedience demands repentance. God never gives His moral approval to a sinful path simply because men stubbornly refuse to turn around. God’s children must always walk in the ways of the Lord. God has made it abundantly clear that marriage between two believers is the way of the Lord. Making a covenant with God to divorce your godless spouse is the biblical and reasonable course for those living in an unequally yoked marriage. Remaining single or remarriage to a genuine believer are both biblically depicted as getting back in line with the will and ways of God.

Believers who choose to remain unequally yoked are only in God’s will by way of His sovereign decrees, which mercifully provides an allowance for their sin. However, they are disobeying God’s command (Preceptive will) against such unions, and all godless unions fall short of the mark of pleasing God (Will of disposition).  It is an undeniable truth that those who remain unequally yoked are outside of the will of God.  This does not mean that these are unregenerate as they would not be unequally yoked if they were not saved by grace, but they are living in disobedience to the will of God by being unequally yoked in marriage.  Christ said, “If you love me, then you will obey my commandments.”  How much has their unbelieving spouse thwarted this obedience?  Since bad company corrupts good morals, is is unthinkable to believe the regenerate spouse has not been greatly obstructed in their obedience of faith.

For the unequally yoked believer divorce brings God’s child into compliance with God’s preceptive will while, at the same time, allowing them to be more pleasing to God (His will of disposition). Divorce in such cases would also be part of God’s sovereign decretive will; so then, divorce places the unequally yoked believer fully inside of the will of God—all three distinct wills. Finally, God’s prodigal child is back under the Father’s preceptive will and His dispositional will—a joyful place to be, and the place where all of God’s children belong.

THE SWORD OF CHRSIT: Separated From All That Is In the World–No Exceptions

Jesus said,

“Truly I say to you, there is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who will not receive many times as much at this time and in the age to come, eternal life” Luke 18:29.

Marriage was given for man, not man for marriage. Remaining unequally yoked, by following the church’s man-made doctrinal teaching that the marriage covenant supersedes God’s commandment against being unequally yoked, extends the years lived with nothing more than God’s permission to sin. And as we have discovered: “God’s sovereign ‘permission’ of human sin is not His moral approval” The path of remaining an unequally yoked child of God remains morally reprehensible to God. Precious Lord Jesus, open the eyes of your church on earth to see the errors of their ways, and show them the path to both corporate and personal repentance.

Biblical view on divorce


About Josiah Portermaine

By the abundant lovingkindness and grace of God I have been in Christ for over 45 years. I live to love and serve God in whatever capacity He has in mind. And can do no other but to follow my conscience as scripture and reason guide me threw the shadow lands. I raised 5 children one of whom now sees clearly as he walks on streets of gold. I have a Masters of Divinity from Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. I own a business in Nebraska, but I live to serve God. I have preached in three different churches for a period of 10 years. I love preaching God's word. Because of my divorce I am not currently serving in any official capacity, but I know that the Lord has a ministry for me. My goal is to write a book on the topic of divorce when unequally yoked, and this blog is a step in that direction. No brother or sister in Christ should divorce their spouse solely upon the advice they find here or anywhere else for that matter. Immerse yourself in God's word, and go before the Lord--wait upon Him and He will make it clear when the time comes that you are called to repent of your unequally yoked marriage. Christ's continued blessings, Joe View all posts by Josiah Portermaine

29 responses to “The Will of God Dictates Divorce for Those Unequally Yoked In Marriage

  • Owen Murray

    My wife of 32 years left the Evangelical faith to become a Roman Catholic, a Romanist. I took her out of Romanism when we married, but now she is returning to it. I don’t know if she was ever one of God’s redeemed. This article is a real paradigm shift for me. But it rings true.

    • Josiah Portermaine

      More reading will help answer questions you are no doubt thinking upon.
      This article is long, but it provides great assistance in understanding whether or not you should begin to ask God’s Spirit to convict you of a need to divorce an unbelieving wife. Also, the article “What is an unequally yoked marriage”.

      You will not find support in most churches, but it is the Lord Jesus and not man (even the church) whom we serve. We follow the head and not the body in cases where the body has gone astray. I will contact you privately with my email in the event you would like to communicate more on this doctrine.

      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Dane

    This article was a huge help to me. I have been in an unequally yoked marriage for just over a year.
    Long story short, I became a believer about a year ago. Since then, the Spirit has begun to change me. Most relevant to my situation is that I now believe in “traditional” marriage roles consistent with what the Bible says and I would like to implement those in my marriage.
    My unbelieving spouse says she would rather go to hell than believe in these marriage roles and furthermore says she will never be a believer.
    The last year has been very difficult. She moved out of our home about a month and a half of ago and we are still separated.
    I am at a loss. I know that God hates divorce (as do I). But I feel like we are at a point where we cannot be in a harmonious marriage.
    Therefore, I have begun to consider the “D word.”
    I look forward to reading other articles as I continue to seek guidance from the Lord and his Word on what I should do.
    Thank you for your work. Truly helpful to me.

    • Josiah Portermaine

      Praise God for your salvation in Christ Jesus! I am very sorry to hear about your wife’s response to what the Lord is doing in your life. Does God hate divorce? Read my article with that as the title. You’ve much to read. God can change the heart of your wife, but we do not know that it is His will to do so. Draw very near to God. Listen carefully to the Holy Spirit as He guides you. Never act alone…go with the Lord and His Holy Spirit. You must follow your conscience, but your conscience must be squarely in line with the word of God. The traditions of Godly men can even be wrong (remember the Pharisees and Sadducees). Read my articles on 2 Corinthians 6:14 and 1 Corinthians 7:12-16. Educate your conscience and then act when it is clear what you are to do. Know that you will have to go against the traditions of men in order to follow the Lord. I am always available for direct questions.

      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

      • Dane

        Thank you for the reply, Joe. I have been reading more on your blog.

        I am struggling to understand how Paul’s writing in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 serves as the four conditions that the unbelieving spouse must consent to (I have read your article multiple times). I am just not seeing how verses 14-15 connect as the conditions. I will read again and continue to pray on the subject.

        Although, frankly in my case, it may be moot. My spouse was very clear when she separated that she would not live with me in (my interpretation of) a Christian marriage. Thus, verse 15 pretty clearly applies to me.

        Any additional guidance on the Corinthians article or any of your other thoughts are appreciated.

        Thanks again for your help. I feel you are one of the few who actually appreciates and understands where I am currently at and how I am trying to act in accordance with God’s word.

        So, again thank you for your writings.

      • Josiah Portermaine

        No surprise that you are finding my article on 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 difficult. It is difficult. At the end of the article I note that the “four conditions” are not actually conditions but rather outcomes that the believer should expect if and when the unbelieving spouse gives their “consent to live with”. You should start reading the article at the paragraph that begins with, “The Greek word σᴜνεᴜɗoҡεῑ is translated into English as ‘consents’”. I want to make sure you are clear on Paul’s statement being a conditional clause. Paul’s epistles are written to believers, not unbelievers, and this passage is referring to marriages with one of each, so it is the believers that Paul expects to follow his instructions. When verse 15 states, “Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave…” I do not understand this to mean that all that is necessary to meet Paul’s condition of “consents to live with” is that the unbeliever simply refuses to separate or divorce. As I said, to consent to something must mean more than doing nothing. Additionally, it is the believer who must be willing to start the dissolution of the marriage if consent by the unbeliever is withdrawn. Paul is merely stating that when the unbeliever leaves or starts the divorce process obviously they have failed to give their consent and the believer “…is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” Notice the “us” in the verse 15? All believers are called to have peace in their lives. That would include the believer who is unequally yoked to an unbeliever. Therefore, the outcomes that Paul tells believers they should expect from the unbeliever giving consent can be understood as the conditions of consent or said another way, the outcomes portray what the “living with” will look like for the married couple. I understand that other translations such as the New King James Version appear to have less force. NKJV reads, “If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her” (1 Cor. 7:12). The translated word, “willing”, though less forceful, does not change Paul’s clear meaning. The believer is not the one who has to be willing to live with the unbeliever. If that is what Paul said, then we could draw the obviously unbiblical deduction that man serves marriage rather than marriage serves man. If the believer had to decide they were willing to “live with” the unbeliever, then they would be agreeing to live the life the unbeliever was living, which of course would be unthinkable. This is why Paul made the outcomes (conditions) for the unbelieving spouse. The unbelieving spouse has to be “willing to live with” or “consent to live with” the believer, which clearly infers living as a believing couple and family. If the unbeliever is unwilling to live with the believer as believers live, then they do not consent to live with and the believer, as the one Paul is instructing is to take a stand and end the marriage unless the unbeliever made that move first. Either way the believer is to have a spouse who is becoming sanctified, children being raised in the faith, a peaceful home meaning the absence of war (a house divided against itself cannot stand), and finally the unbelieving spouse must agree to the gospel truth that Jesus is the only way of salvation. The unbelieving spouse does not have to be saved, but they have to agree that salvation comes through Christ and His atoning sacrifice for sins. So many have bought into the myth that salvation comes from the will of man but that is simply as far from the truth as one can get (see John 1:12-13 and Romans 9:16). An unbelieving spouse must give intellectual ascent to Christ’s role as savior, and if they wanted forgiveness, then they would begin to repent and cry out to God for mercy. But the minimum requirement to “consent to live with” is that they recognize Jesus as the Way, the Truth and the Life. There is no other name…
        Dane, God desires that His children be bound together with fellow believers. It would seem God is working with you in such a way so that you will have an equally yoked wife in His timing. We have unbelievers all around us and we pour out our love upon them, but we must never become bound to them. You will need to think long on the difference. It is for such concepts that meditation is critical. Always have verses in mind when meditating. Again, I am sick to my stomach for you as I know your pain. I have experienced it myself only I thought my wife was saved for a very long time. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. He is faithful. Now is the time to spend as much time with Him in prayer and in the word. We learn much better when we are experiencing suffering–especially heartache.
        Continue to follow your conscience and do the right thing and you cannot go wrong. If a divorce takes place their are some who will think you have sinned, but that is not necessary for us to go through certain divorces. Divorce itself is never a sin. Many sins bring about divorces, but nowhere does the Bible refer to divorce as a sin.
        Christ’s Continued Blessings, Joe

      • Dane

        Thank you once again. The Corinthians article is making more sense. Thank you also for the article on Malachi as that helped me see the true meaning of the “God hates divorce” statement. It seems that God hates divorce between two believers, which makes sense and is consistent with other parts of the New and Old Testament.

        I continue to seek the Lord’s guidance. It is challenging frankly as my spouse continually tells me (and our children) that this situation is all my fault. I was the one who “changed” by becoming saved last year and interpreting Christianity in a way that is contrary to her beliefs and a majority of modern society. Furthermore, her separating from me is my fault. If only I believed the “love” part of Christianity, this situation would not be taking place.

        And of course, trying to explain position to my young children is almost impossible.

        Would it be possible to contact you directly with any specific questions I may have? I certainly will be judicious as I don’t want to be a burden.

        Thank you so much again. I can’t emphasize enough the value I get from your site.

      • Josiah Portermaine

        Once again my heart breaks for you. I had hoped children were not yet involved. You did not change out of stubbornness, but the Lord God changed you. John MacArthur calls regeneration the single most transformative action that can take place in the life of a person; even more than physical death if I recall his sermon on the subject. I would agree with him. I will email you my information so that we can speak more readily.
        Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Anonymous

    I am married to an unbeliever. At times I have thought about divorce, but I haven’t pursued it because I’ve believed it to be against God’s will. “12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If a brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his believing wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.

    15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him go. The believing brother or sister is not bound in such cases. God has called youb to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?”

    This passage is what has kept me in my marriage. How do you counter Paul’s teaching here?

    • Josiah Portermaine

      The answer to your question is in 2 articles on the blog, but read a third first. Read in this order: First, “What is an unequally yoked marriage?” Do not be quick to say you are unequally yoked. Know what I mean by that phrase. If that is you, then read, Second, “1 Cor. 7:14: What is Paul’s meaning? The unbelieving Husband or Wife is sanctified. Finally, my favorite article is complicated so read it at a time of day when your mind is at its zenith. Third, 1 Cor 7:12-16 Properly Interpreted Strengthens the Case for Unequally Yoked Divorce found in 2 Cor 6:14-7:1.

      After reading these pray and ask God for His will in this area of your life. You should draw near to God through the Holy Spirit. You do not want to get a divorce that is against the Word and will of God. You also do not want to be in a marriage against the Word and will of God.

      I am always available to communicate with you and answer any additional questions.

      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Donna

    Could you please tell me if you believe a Catholic and Christian marriage would qualify as unequally yoked? Such differences between us is difficult and pulling me from my Christian faith.

    • Josiah Portermaine

      Thank you for writing and for taking an interest in this important question. You can find a blog article titled, “What is an Unequally Yoked Marriage?” This article will answer your question and answer additional questions that I may not anticipate here. For two people, married or not, to be spiritually unequally yoked one of the two people must actually be born-again while the other is not. The biggest problem with this explanation is that most “Christians” know so little about biblical teaching on who is and who is not truly born-again that they cannot say for certain that even one person in a marriage is actually in Christ. Generally speaking, if a Catholic becomes born-again, they will soon leave Catholicism. Sadly, Christians from the denominations that sprang from the reformation of the fifteenth and sixteenth Centuries such as Lutheran, Presbyterian, Reformed, Anglican, Methodist, etc. are generally not populated with born-again people, which is what actually makes a person a Christian. Evangelicals have followed this pattern and are now primarily populated by formal Christians, which is a name for all those who take the name Christian without actually being in Christ Jesus or born-again. So then, it is not uncommon to have a marriage between a Catholic and a Protestant that is not unequally yoked because neither partner is actually born-again. However, if the “Christian” is actually born-again as Jesus explains in John 3, then they are likely unequally yoked in a marriage to a Catholic. Catholics become born-again all the time, but as I mentioned above, they will see the need to separate themselves from the Catholic church. They seek out a biblically centered church so that they can be spiritually fed. Please read the article mentioned above and feel free to ask further questions.
      Christ’s Blessings,

  • Patty

    Divorcing after 25yr marriage. I prayed for a breakthrough for my spouse. His actions and words are not of God’s will I married him out of lust- young, dumb hopeful and desperate. We were both brought up Christian but not practicing the faith. It’s been 6yrs that God called me- studying scripture is a necessity for a Christian to know anything about God. I live by the spirit- God’s will is my will. He has showed me who I am to him, his love his grace! I know he too loves his son who has a hardened heart. I thought God would bring him to repentance! My heart hurts for my husband and our marriage- the could’ves- if those that want to hear will hear. Those who ask will receive. My Father delivers, on his timing. My prayers have been answered and he holds my head high. I really didn’t think it would come to divorce. God’s will is for me to let go of all people that opens a door for Satan in my life. He said for me to get out of the way so he can save his son! The warfare is daily, being unequally yoked. My marriage is the final relationships I am to end. It hurts and scary. He commands us to be strong and courageous.
    God blessed my mess with 3 beautiful children and supplied me with everything I needed to raise them! Amen. I abide in Christ and pray for God’s people to wake up to God’s Grace and accept his love, especially his church! Jesus divides- he came to bring a sword, and he never said for just the unmarried or Jews. His blood covers all who accept it and abide in it. Thank you for your blog. I have delve deeper into scripture in divorce and marriage. God keeps affirming my decision to get out of the neglect and abuse.

    • Joe Porter

      I am proud of you as my sister in Christ. You will not hear that much if you are the one who pursued the divorce, but biblically you are following the ways of the Lord. Yes divorce does hurt and it is often scary, but it frees you to consider what the Lord has in store for you. Quoting Jesus Luke 18:29-30 says, “Truly I say to you, there is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who will not receive many times as much at this time and in the age to come, eternal life.” Jesus promised us many times as much in this lifetime if we would obediently remove ourselves from unequally yoked relationships to the children of Satan. This passage adds spouse to the other family members that were mentioned in the sword of Jesus passage (Matthew 10:34-36). How will Jesus bless us? In many ways, but certainly by providing His children with a house that can stand strong. A house where the inhabitants can love God with all their heart, soul, mind and strength. And a house where they can do so together. “…every city or house divided against itself will not stand” (Matthew 12:25). Choose you this day whom you will serve. As for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord. All of us.
      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Rae

    Can you email me? I have prayed long and hard about this issue. I need someone to talk to.

    • Joe Porter

      I have responded to you through your email. If you have not seen it in your inbox then communicate to me through this method or email another comment using a different email to which I can respond.
      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Nsongurua Udo

    I am so blessed by this post. God spoke to me about this but nobody believes me. They all say I did not hear from God. Can I email you.

    • Joe Porter

      I would enjoy hearing from you.
      Christ’s continued blessings!

      • Edgar

        I too am in a unequally yoked marriage.

        I knew about 3 years ago but for the sake of my child, I decided to stay.

        My wife was not a believer before me and still to this day, even after several occasions where Father has clearly spoken to her in some way, some fashion, she denies the truth of it. Believing that there has to be a balance to it. An “ostrich approach,” if you ask me.

        I believed I could help save her, clearly blinded by the fact that it’s not my job to change her.

        I was 25 when we met and she was 42 and I assumed Father brought me to her to change her. 5 years later, we have a 3 year old daughter together. But she will not get rid of her old life before me.

        She prays with my daughter before a meal when I’m home, but I don’t know how she is when I’m away. She smokes cigs, not around her but it’s clear that she still does. Being with her for the past 5 years, I have started smoking weed again. Falling into my sinful habits before her and it’s just not going to work out.

        I’m encouraged by this post as it has confirmed everything I’ve been feeling for the past 3 or so years.

        I plan to divorce this woman before this year is over.

        Thank you for the post. 🙏

      • Josiah Portermaine

        Thank you for writing your story. Divorce is not easy, so it must never be entered into lightly; however, God has commanded, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” (2 Cor. 6:14, Also read through 7:1). Make sure the Holy Spirit is prompting you to follow this command. Paul did provide an exception to divorce in 1 Cor 7: 12-16, which I write about on the blog, so be sure to read that article too. I’ll try to tag it for you after my reply.
        Practical issues need to be considered prior to divorcing as well. You want to make certain that you have set yourself up to share the custody of your child. If your daughter lives in a believing home 50% of the time it will provide her opportunity to see how God’s people differ from the world as you teach her the precepts of God. If you have more questions of any kind be sure to ask. I generally take further discussions to our private emails so that you feel free to ask anything without an audience. Please read more of the blog Edgar. Discover teachers such as RC Sproul and Martyn Lloyd-Jones who is my favorite preacher and expositor of God’s word.
        Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Diandra Johnson

    Amen! The church MUST start teaching this! Along with sexual purity, and stop making people believe that just because you get married, you with be in His Will.
    I married an unbeliever. Then I had to repent and an going through divorce now. It has been an ugly uncomfortable and painful situation, because I also had a child with him. But God gives grace and I have learned the hard lesson of disobedience! I followed Ezra 10 because the enemy and the false church kept trying to guilt me into staying. Nope, I was out, because God was against me while in disobedience.

    • Joe Porter

      Thank you for sharing your experience. Sadly it is not just the false church that guilts Christians who are unequally yoked in marriage to stay in that condition. But we must answer to God. We must follow the scriptures. We must listen to our conscience. Sadly, because the conscience is informed through the mind, those who hear what the church teaches on this subject mostly have a conscience that is misinformed when it comes to what God’s word actually says about being outside the will of God when we are unequally yoked. Therefore, we must be careful not to ask believers to break with their conscience and divorce their godless spouse until their mind has been renewed by God’s word on the doctrine of being unequally yoked. This blog works toward teaching God’s will on this tremendous doctrine. It is very gratifying that you have discovered God’s truth on this doctrine. Now go and be unequally yoked no more. By that I include every vile association with this world. We are in the world, but we must never be of the world. As Martyn Lloyd-Jones frequently said, we are part of a new human race in Christ and we must be entirely different from those who are merely in Adam and of the world. How absurd it would to divorce our godless spouse only to date godless people, or to be best friends with a godless person, or engage in godless behaviors, or speak vile, silly or coarse words, etc. We must cease all instances of being unequally yoked with the world. We must love those who are lost and desire to introduce them to our Lord, but we must never join them in their sinfulness. It is our calling and privilege to be salt and light in this vile and dark world.
      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

  • Theodora

    “Finally, God’s prodigal child is back under the Father’s preceptive will and His dispositional will—a joyful place to be, and the place where all of God’s children belong.”.
    Before the believer leaves the pigstye to beg the Lord, the believer is still stuck trying to bring order and clean the pigstye chaos, to no avail. He has to have his efforts fail consistently to realize there is not even one connecting possibility, that can mix oil and water. It won’t blend because it is designed to be incompatible. Like the ox and the donkey. It is cruel to yoke these two beasts.

    “An ox and ass, being of different species and of very different characters, cannot associate comfortably, nor unite cheerfully in drawing a plough or a wagon. The ass being much smaller and his step shorter, there would be an unequal and irregular draft. Besides, the ass, from feeding on coarse and poisonous weeds, has a fetid breath, which its yoke fellow seeks to avoid, not only as poisonous and offensive, but producing leanness, or, if long continued, death; and hence, it has been observed always to hold away its head from the ass and to pull only with one shoulder.”

  • Theodora

    Regarding the will of God:. There’s no such thing as accidents, only incidents.

  • Eve Adam

    If an equally yoked marriage can produce bitterness it still can be dealt with but not with an unbeliever because they are unable to repent.

    Biblical Headship Vs Abusive Men ❃Paul Washer❃ – 6 mins

    • Theodora

      Yes, forcing diverse values destroys trust, resulting in a whole host of sins, such as ungodly jealousy, and the frustration of being unequally yoked can lead to serious sins such as rage, and even murder for example. Yet, almost all Christians in this bondage do not see this curse as the cause of their afflictions, so they ‘die’, committing ‘suicide’ slowly, all the while depending on odols, such as medications, gluttony, porn, drugs, etc., to treat the symptoms.
      God provides valid divorce, to prevent sins becoming worse, like sins that end up criminal, as a result of the sin of unequally yoked marriage.

      It is like nipping sin in the bud, preventing it from getting uglier.

  • Alan

    How do you explain 1 Corinthians 7:13?
    I’m curious because I’m in the unequally yoked marriage. However, she was a “Christian” at marriage but now no longer believes…and forbids me to believe.

    • Joe Porter

      Read the following article on this website: 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 Properly Interpreted Strengthens the Case for Unequally Yoked Divorce Found in 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1

      You are in a difficult position. You should be willing to do significantly more reading on my blog to figure out what you should do. Write me again once you have done more reading and still have questions. I would be happy to provide my phone number so that we can talk more extensively if that would help you. Generally speaking, I can only give general advice from God’s Word when I do not have more details. My heart goes out to you. Your wife was deluded to think that she was a Christian. People understand so little about the bible and they rely on ministers for their understanding and belief. The vast majority of “Christians” do not know enough about God’s Word to realize they are not and never have been in Christ. Being born in a Christian family or deciding to be a member of a Christian church does not a Christian make.
      Christ’s Continued Blessings,

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