Marriage has been in the news for many years now as those passionately fighting for the advancement of the homosexual agenda have sought the inclusion of homosexuals in the various states’ marriage laws. On June 26, 2015 the Supreme Court of the United States of America in a 5-4 decision forced all 50 states to recognize homosexual marriages as equal with traditional marriages. In a loving, Christian response John Piper discussed some differences in the approach to this issue between those outside the body of Christ and those of us who are a part of the body of Christ.
He said, “Christians know what is coming, not only because we see it in the Bible, but because we have tasted the sorrowful fruit of our own sins. We do not escape the truth that we reap what we sow. Our marriages, our children, our churches, our institutions – they are all troubled because of our sins. The difference is: We weep over our sins. We don’t celebrate them. We don’t institutionalize them. We turn to Jesus for forgiveness and help. We cry to Jesus, ‘who delivers us from the wrath to come’” (1 Thessalonians 1:10).
Piper’s line really got me thinking: “We weep over our sins. We don’t celebrate them. We don’t institutionalize them. We turn to Jesus for forgiveness and help.” Generally speaking this line is very much true of all those who have been regenerated by God’s Holy Spirit. However, I suspect some sins have escaped our notice and slipped into the church. Piper himself and the majority of the faithful seemingly make an exception for unequally yoked marriages. When a regenerate Christian marries an unregenerate person of the opposite sex most in the church celebrate their union at the wedding and institutionalize their godless union by validating it under God’s institution of marriage even though God has made it abundantly clear that He forbids unequally yoked unions the greatest of which are marriages. Oddly enough, many pastors will refuse to perform wedding ceremonies for unequally yoked couples, but then turn around and participate in the celebration and institutionalization of those marriages after a more liberal “man of God” or an officer of the state has performed the wedding ceremony.
How in good conscience can this be when God’s word clearly says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness with lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God…” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16b).
Clearly an exception has been made by most in the church for those who are breaking God’s law against being unequally yoked, but they refuse to make a similar exception for those breaking God’s law against gay marriage. Both scripture and reason dictate that we treat these two cases the same. Both homosexuality and unequally yoked relationships are forbidden by God’s word. Since God instituted marriage, it is entirely inappropriate to celebrate or institutionalize either marriage. The consistent and righteous position for the regenerate person is to continue standing firm against gay marriage for Christians and to repent of the position that celebrates and institutionalizes unequally yoked marriage.
Why do true Christians not weep over the multitudes who continue to participate in unequally yoked relationships? Why do they not call the guilty to repentance? Why do they not call those who have fallen into this sin to turn to Jesus for forgiveness and help? Some will say that they do call those caught up in this sin to turn to Jesus for forgiveness and help, but for this one sin they leave repentance out of the equation. Jesus called all men everywhere to “repent and believe”. The rich young ruler believed Jesus had the power to save him, but he was unwilling to repent of his love of money so he took his sins with him as he walked away from Jesus. Every sinner must lay his sins at the foot of the cross. We cannot have both Christ and our sin. Repentance is the first word of the gospel. A faith without repentance is a faith in something other than Christ Jesus. With Ezra and Nehemiah as our guides we must repent of our unequally yoked marriage and lay them at the foot of the cross and walk away from them. To remain in these marriages is to remain unrepentant—to remain in sin.
The reason Piper and all true Christians cannot celebrate the Supreme Court’s decision is because to do so and to accept the institutionalization of homosexuality would encourage rather than discourage our fellow man to incur the wrath of God. It pleases us that so many modern Christians seem to understand this even while the majority does not, but unfortunately this same understanding has been lacking for those who have entered unequally yoked marriages with the sons and daughters of Belial. Because the church encourages rather than discourages its own members in unequally yoked marriages it has, for many generations, experienced an epidemic of godless unions, which have destroyed individual lives, families, and churches. I am calling upon the church to recognize its error and reverse this catastrophic position.
Consider the story of Jehoshaphat, who was among the godliest of Judah’s kings. After giving his son in marriage to Athaliah (the evil daughter of wicked king Ahab and queen Jezebel) and trying to join Judah with Israel in war God sent a prophet to Jehoshaphat to ask the king this very poignant question, “Should you help the wicked and love those who hate the Lord and so bring wrath on yourself from the Lord” (2 Chron. 19:2)? Jehoshaphat got the message and maintained his separation for many years, but he reached out to join up with the godless king Ahab one last time in part because his son remained married to the evil princess Athaliah, and the wrath of God came down upon him and all of Jerusalem in a terrifying way. And to make God’s point even clearer His wrath came upon Jehoshaphat and Judah through the very girl to whom he gave his son in marriage. Athaliah murdered her husband, Jehoshaphat’s son, as well as Jehoshaphat’s entire family, after having godly king Jehoshaphat dethroned and murdered she took his thrown for herself. For six long years, as the queen of Judah, Athaliah systematically destroyed nearly every memory of the Lord God that Jehoshaphat tirelessly built throughout his days on the throne. In Athaliah’s pilfering of the temple and the king’s treasury the last two mites that she stole from godly Jehoshaphat were his reputation and his legacy as almost nobody ever mentions the name of Jehoshaphat when they list the truly great men of God in the bible.
September 17th, 2017 at 11:56 PM
I think this is a very good argument. How would you answer those who would say Paul tells believers not to divorce if the unbelieving spouse is willing to live with with his/her believing spouse (1 Corinthians 7:12-16)?
September 18th, 2017 at 4:14 PM
Thank you for your question. You will find the answer in the article titled “Unraveling the Linchpin: 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 (Part 2)”, but briefly, the Corinthian believers thought perhaps that they had a green light to pursue divorcing their unbelieving spouses immediately to avoid being bound together with unbelievers–they were no doubt feeling the pain of persecution from their own spouse. We do not know exactly what they asked Paul, but we can surmise their questions from his answers. Much of the church has interpreted Paul’s instructions in these verses as a permanent red light declaring the road to divorce as closed entirely unless the unbeliever takes the forbidden path of divorce. But Paul is actually flashing the yellow caution light to believers who have been recently born-again. He is telling them “to remain in the condition” in which they came to Christ until enough time has elapsed to make it clear whether or not their unsaved spouses will soften or harden to the gospel. After all, God has recently saved you, so perhaps he intends to save your spouse too. If they soften and become saved, then the waiting will have been worth it for they will no longer be bound to an unbeliever. If their spouse hardens to the gospel, then they should pursue a separation and divorce in order to get back under the full will of God (see excellent article “The Will of God Dictates Divorce for Those Unequally Yoked in Marriage”. This pursuit should be done only with great petition upon the Lord for his guidance and light. We never want to get out ahead of God. I call what Paul advocates here a temporary injunction from the biblical command against being unequally yoked to the children of Satan. I would only add at this time the urgency of evangelizing your spouse (assuming doing so would not cause you physical or great emotional danger), you cannot wait for them to magically get saved. Evangelize them with God’s word and they will either soften or harden. If you do nothing, then you could be stuck in an unequally yoked marriage for many, many years. Feel free to interact as much as you would like if you think I may be of use for your research and study. Christ’s continual blessings, Joe
September 18th, 2017 at 6:10 PM
You or another reader found an article on 1 Corinthians 7, but two more are better than the one that was read. The one I alluded to in my previous response to your comment is very good and will likely be more helpful. Kindest Regards, Joe
July 6th, 2015 at 10:07 PM
Nice to hear from you brother. Christ’s continued blessings.
July 6th, 2015 at 9:28 PM
Do you have a link to Pipers original statements?
July 6th, 2015 at 9:44 PM
July 6th, 2015 at 10:03 PM
Oh thank you so much!!
July 6th, 2015 at 9:27 PM
Beth thought provoking. I have myself refused to marry unequally yoked couples, but have not even given a thought to those who have done so by others. Very convicting